ROMENTIC WAYS TO PROPOSE ("my own thoughts")

Romantic Ways to Propose:

If your girl is really the one to go in for all the mushy and romantic stuff, then a candlelit dinner is the simplest and most romantic ways to propose. You can add a personal touch to it by making a reservation in advance and getting the music group hired by the hotel, to play a list of her favorite tracks as well. The dim lights and the romantic tunes may just prove to be the right setting to pop the question. And hopefully it can definitely get you an affirmative reply! Besides if you think she would not mind the old fashioned way then you can actually go down on your knees and propose towards the end of the sumptuous meal.

The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach, they say. And it can work wonders the other way round as well. Men who cook (really well!) can be a huge turn on for most women and this can prove to be an apt romantic way to propose to your ladylove. Cook a scrumptious meal and place a love note next to the candle. Dim out all the lights, fluff up the cushions, spray some fragrance in the air and pull on your best outfit! If you have the culinary skills then bake a cake and write ‘Will you marry me’ with the help of some icing tubes.

If you are really cozy with the family and friends of your sweetheart, then you can plan a surprise party for her at the weekend. Include them in the planning and surprise him/her after a hard day at work. This might just touch the right chord considering you have gone really out of the way to include his/her family and friends as well.

Are you really looking for some sensual and romantic ways to propose? This one is bound to floor him/her. What you will need are some roses and a bubble bath. You will need to prepare a scented and hot bubble bath for your special someone. Do turn off the lights and use some candles. Scatter rose petals around and over the floor. Have some of these on his/her bed as well. Blindfold your partner and get him/her into the bedroom. Watch the surprise and joy unfold on the face once he/she sees this bedroom and bathroom makeover. Wait for the right moment and propose when your partner is least expecting these lines.

Does your partner love the outdoors? Plan for a nice twosome getaway at a romantic outing and pop the question at a scenic location, when he/she is least expecting. The setting would be perfect with the backdrop of nature and nothing could be more romantic then being away from the noisy city. Leave all your problems behind; you do not need any excess baggage!

It does not matter how much you spend but you can look for creative options, which the both of you can cherish forever. The bottom line is that these romantic ways of proposals should be memorable and positive enough to elicit a ‘Yes’ from him/her. Best of luck!

HOW TO STOP THE BREAK UP????

NOW the matter is How to stop the breakup??  

breaking the relation is very easy but to bound the relation is as tuff. there are some ways which we can utilise if breakup is coming to us:--

Communicate. Communication is important. If you find that when you try to communicate your feelings to your partner it always leads to an argument, try writing your feelings down. Read through what you’ve written. If you find things that are just petty problems with no real validity, eliminate them. Try to find the sources behind your words

Resist making accusations. Approach your partner calmly, without being defensive. Tell him/her the problem. Don’t be accusing or they will become defensive and yes, you will end up in an argument. If you find it’s easier to write it in a letter, then do so. Leave while they read it so you aren’t hovering over them, waiting for their reaction.

1. Refrain from insulting your partner during arguments. Fighting dirty can quickly become a habit and eventually someone will say something that the other person cannot forget, or worse, forgive.
2. Take time to tell your partner why you love him/her. Not once, but often. This can be something as small as a compliment on how they look. Your partner needs to know you appreciate them. Don’t just assume they know. Everyone likes to be reminded they are loved.
3. Be supportive and look for ways to give your partner the things they need the most. Even if they don’t tell you what they need, you can figure it out if you pay attention. Some people have a hard time telling you what they need but there are clues. If you’re not sure, ask.
4. Don’t neglect yourself. If your needs aren’t being met, find a way to let your partner know. If you are unhappy, you will eventually blame your partner. It’s much easier to let them know, in a positive way, the things you need.
5. Never try to solve a problem when you are angry. Take time to cool down. I know this can seem impossible at times but think about it. Is anything ever really solved when you are yelling at each other?
6. Set aside some time for just the two of you. If not once a week, then at least once a month. This should be quality, alone time, however you two choose to spend it. You might try arranging a specific day each week and take turns planning what you will do.
7. Discuss decisions that affect the both of you and try to find a solution that will keep you both happy. Never make an important decision that affects you both without talking to your partner.
8. Don’t Lie! Everyone lies occasionally. It’s in our nature. This isn’t an excuse to lie to your partner. Every time you are caught in a lie, a little more trust is taken away. A healthy relationship requires trust. Never ever lie about things important to the relationship. You’re better off facing the music if you’ve done something wrong then being caught in a lie.

BREAK UP??? why it happens???

BREAK UP:   Now the matter is about BREAKUP.. WATS breakup? when it occurred between couple? break up nothing just a big issue of small fight not fight actually love fight between couples. A relationship breakup, often referred to simply as a breakup, is the termination of a usually intimate relationship by any means other than bereavement. The act is commonly termed a dump in slang when it is initiated by one partner.

Rationale

Several psychological models have been proposed to explain the process of a relationship breakup. One theory, by L. Lee,^[1] proposes that there are five stages leading ultimately up to a breakup.

1. Dissatisfaction — one or both partners grow dissatisfied with the relationship.
2. Exposure — both partners mutually become aware of the problems in the relationship.
3. Negotiation — both partners attempt to negotiate a solution to problems.
4. Resolution and transformation — both partners apply the yield of their negotiation.
5. Termination — proposed resolution fails to rectify issues and no further solutions are accepted or applied.

The Emotions of Grief After A Breakup

Grief counselor and breakup  that the emotions of grief after a breakup are essentially the same as those as any grief process. Her research reflects that of Beverley Raphael who likened the process of grief as "phases" rather than "stages."Viney writes that the phases of breakup grief are "Shock and Disbelief", "Review and Painful Relinquishment", and "Reorganization, Integration, and Acceptance". Any of these three phases may be skipped, repeated, or rearranged, depending on one's situation and personality.

Reasons Why Breakup Happen and How to Fix it

There are many reasons why breakups happen. You need to make a choice to do something about it and try to fix it before it becomes permanent. Breakups are known as a situation where life can be permanently altered thus making them very hard to handle. 

The feelings of loneliness and pain can cripple anyone. The worse thing about it is that you probably feel if you seen it coming, you might have been able to avert it. You may start looking at the situations on the reasons that could have caused the breakup. Though you may find those problems, you may realize that it’s too late to stop the initial breakup. Even if this is the case, you can still fix them and try to win your partner back.

First reason why break up happen: Do not show or being too overly loving. For many men, anything resembles the word love after an intimate time together sends them running for the hills. While many women find it sweet, men find it a nightmare. It’s called “pressing the gas way too fast”

Here are some reasons why men run away from their suffocating women:

One type is the overly needy, clingy type that resembles the helpless but love-struck girl; the second type is the controlling, very demanding devil-incarnate who wants to command your every thought.

For guys, neither one is good to deal with and usually sends them ducking for cover. If you have either one of these attitudes, it is best to work on them and hold back these behaviors. Try not to be overly demanding or threatening and give the man some slack. While some men don’t mind a woman who is challenging, others dread it.

(2)  Second reason why break up happen:  Try to keep the relationship from getting boring. When a relationship first begins, the joy of being in love is there. However, over time, you both can take each other for granted and you and your other half just go through the motions of the relationship with a lack of feeling. It’s tragic when a relationship dies out because no one decided to keep it from going sour. Even if the newness wears off, you both should always love to be with one another.

If you notice the relationship in trouble from this sort of problem, you can fix it. First, try to remember what brought you both together. Second, find similar interests and do those together. Love is always there. You both just need to rediscover it.

(3)  Lastly, common reason why break up happen:  Cheating on the person you are with is the single biggest reason people breakup. There’s no reason for cheating. If you don’t love the person you are with, then just don’t be with them. If you do cheat, it makes you a dirt-bag for doing such a thing. It’s frightening to know that both men and women are having a difficult time being faithful to the one they supposedly love. Cheating breaks apart any relationship.