"HOW TO GET TRUE LOVE IN HUGE WORLD??"

This is a huge world and we may suffer from many conditions while we are going to search our true love. many people we will meet daily some of them will be liked by us , some of them will be attracted by us, and some times we think that we are of one's only. but in actually ,,, true love is not this.. every body supports us if our days are good.. every one calibrate with us  but only one who supports us while we feel alone in the world ,, when we think no body with us..still we feel that god sends some one to touch and read our heart . in that conditions, when that any person even a stranger ,comes out to help us and save us from bad time,,,, that will be only called "TRUE LOVE".

HOW TO BELIEVE ON TRUE LOVE:

I’ve realized that one of my main goals is to find a worthwhile and long term relationship. I noticed you have entries on how to keep a relationship and on how to end a relationship so would you consider writing an entry on what you perceive to be the best way to find a worthwhile relationship. How to avoid making the same mistakes, overcoming fears, keeping up motivation after failure etc.”

Regardless of our culture, our level of education or economic status, at the depth of all of us are the same desires- to love, to be loved, and to be happy.

Of course we could add other desires to this list, like money and wealth and fancy things, but when you drill into these things, the reason for wanting them is so that we can appear more desirable, and will hopefully be loved and accepted.

If love is something so fundamentally important to us, then why is it that we have so many issues and misunderstandings in the area of finding it? I think the answer is simple, that most of us have never been educated in this fundamental area of our development. Chances are, you didn’t grow up with parents who were relationship experts, and we certainly didn’t study relationships in our high school curriculums. For most of us, it’s been an adventure in trial and error and learning through pain and heart-break. But is there an easier way?

In light of Valentine’s Day approaching this week, I am going to touch on one of my favorite topics of all time: finding love.

 

"HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE REALLY IN LOVE"

AM I IN LOVE??   It is a very common question, "How can I tell I'm in love?", but it is not an easy question to answer. What feels like love to one person may be nothing more than attraction to another. Some people fall in and out of love quickly and often while others are never really in love as much as they are in lust. This can get confusing when you are a teen because romantic love is a relatively new concept for you and you don't know what to expect. You are overwhelmed with all sorts of new feelings and social pressures. They are confusing. What is love? What makes you want a romantic relationship with one person and not another? How does your heart choose a partner? Why does love end? These questions can't be easily answered.

One of the most confusing quasi-love feelings is lust. Lust is a very powerful, very intense feeling of physical attraction toward another person. Lust is mainly sexual in nature - the attraction is superficial based on instant chemistry rather than genuine caring. Usually we lust after people we do not know well, people we still feel comfortable fantasizing about. It is very common for people to confuse lust for love. But why? What is it about lust and love that make them so easy to mix up? If lust is all about sex, how can a relationship without sex be about lust? Teens struggle with this because they see lust in the Biblical sense, but lust isn't that sinister. Lust is about physical attraction and acting ONLY on physical attraction. Love is about much more than that. Yet many teens (and to be fair, many adults) confuse an intense attraction for some sort if divine love. For teens, since feelings of attraction are still new and since pop-culture sells sex and love as one package, it is very easy to get the two mixed up.

There is no easy way to find the truth behind your feelings or the feelings of another person but there are some tell-tale signs that love is blooming (or growing deeper). If you agree with 7 of the following 9 statements you are probably in love.

1. You know, because you have been told by your significant other, that your deep feelings are returned in kind.
2. The object of your affections makes you feel special and good about yourself.
3. If/when you feel jealous it is always fleeting; you trust your partner not to betray you or hurt your relationship.
4. Nothing makes you feel as serene as when you and your partner are together.
5. When you fight with your partner you usually make up within a few hours and you always agree that nothing is more important than you both being able to express your true feelings (even if they sometimes cause conflict).
6. Your partner never asks you to choose between him/her and your loyalties to your family and friends - if you do choose him/her over them you always have a good reason and it is always YOUR decision, and your decision alone.
7. Neither you or your partner feel the need to test the other's loyalties or feelings.
8. You are more yourself when with your partner than you are with anybody else.

HOW WE FALL IN LOVE MAGIC???

How to fall in love or may be its doubt:--

As i described about the love in my last blog,, now matter is that how we fall in love ?? some body say tat "ITS ALL TALK NONSENSE: becoz they are bold as well as rude so we cant understand them about the purity of LOVE,. when we see every body we think just"HOW THE PERSON HE/SHE IS??? " IS HE TRUE?? IS THERE ANY PAST OF HIM/HER?? and extra.. becoz then we don't know more about that person,, so we confuse in every step of understanding,  slowly slowly while we know more about that person then our interset increases more and more,, we become open with her/him. then we own give a name to that relation called"FRIENDSHIP".. this is just a formal name to show others that we are not strangers.. when we are in problems then we firstly tell to our friend, we think that he/she is close to us . the one day ,,, we feel some special in our heart some more attractive some more closest. then we think that "WE FALL IN LOVE".

Love and Stress

Love and stress have a complex relationship. Stress can either induce people to seek out others or to isolate themselves. When people are under moderate stress, they search for comforting, pleasurable experiences. Such experiences may include food, sex, touch, and bonding with other people. The levels of stress must be manageable, however, for people to seek out other people. Under extreme stress, social relationships are more likely to break down than to be built.

When we are under stress, our bodies release cortisol. In people who have just fallen in love, the levels of cortisol in their blood tend to be higher. Cortisol, in turn, triggers the release of Oxycontin and vasopressin.

The Mystery Maintained

I've heard some people say that knowing the biologic basis of love removes its mystery and thus its magic. To them, I say, "Take heart." This article can only provide a small taste of what we know about the complexity of a brain in love. There is also still much about love and the human brain that we have yet to discover. Learning about the biology of love reminds me that there's still a whole lot more mystery, and much of it is encased in the few pounds of neurons I carry around each day.

LOVE" A GREAT POWER IN THE WORLD"

"LOVE" WATS love?? if you know then put your hand on your heart and close your eye, then the first face you will see ,, that is only the one whom you most love... it means "LOVE" is internal feeling that feel a person for others,, it may be of any kinds like if we love our parents then there is a "FEELING" in our heart for then we cant live without them,, they are our

strength as well as weakness.. similarly if we feel some thing for any gal or guy ,, we say that we are in love, but in actual that is only the attraction of face gesture and posture.. more about it , i will tell some other session..

Can you guess the Type of Love?

• Think about the other person all the time
• not long lasting
• physical attraction
• see only the person's good qualities
• intrigued by some fascinating quality of the person
• your world revolves around the person
• you don't know the person very well
• excited when you see the person
• being love-struck
• heart rate increases
• sweaty palms
• think you're in love
• talk about the person all the time
• want to be with the person all the time
• a crush
• Love is an emotion that nearly everyone has experienced at some time in their life. One would think that with such a familiar concept, researchers would agree on what constitutes love and how to measure it. That has not been the case. Most research on love is based on a prior theoretical conceptualizations. It's quite possible that if a researcher starts out by defining love and then develops a measure to quantify that conceptualization, the results would tend to reflect this process.