Now love is changed with different types. if you have loved anyone and that person ditched you it means that person you've loved does not deserve your love, such a cheap persons just want to play with gals/boys.  so always love that who loves you! because if anyone can give you a new look then that can be destroyed by your own decision .

                      fights and frustration are happened in every relation. frustration is your own test which can result what you you do in your frustration , either you leave your partner or live with him/her.so never be mad because of fights and frustration , this is possibility that relation may go on wrong way but you must have to take care that due to any problem your relation should not be finished because every new relation takes some time to settle and this is very risky to trust on anyone, if you do this mistake, definite you will be ditched by any cheater.

Love And Attraction

Hello every one, first of all i want to tell you about the attraction and love , there is a lot of difference between love and attraction.
The major difference between love and attraction is that love is pure and it stays with one forever, where as attraction is just for the time being. In love one can never get over someone they love and in attraction with the passage of time, people forget about it. Love is a pure feeling, where you fall in love, with someone who is love of                                                              your life and you want to spend your life with that person.

Their happiness is all that matter to you and they are the most important people to you on the face of this earth. No matter how hard one tire cannot get rid of the feeling of being in life and cannot forget anything about someone they love. As far as attraction is concerned, it is basically because of the reason for liking them, either physically or mentally or maybe by personality.

Attraction is for the time being and people get over with the feeling as time moves on. And soon they are love with someone else, this is not love, love is something entirely different. It is a feeling which does not reduce with time but it increases as time move up. The story of love is different and many have not understood it but yet fall for it.

Love is loving the person for all they are and attraction is only loving how the person looks. Though sometimes attractions come before love.

HOW TO FALL IN LOVE???

Te Quiero, Te Amo, Me Gusta Mucha, Je t'aime à la folie, Mujhe apse mohabbat hai...with a thousand different ways to say I love you, do you really know how to fall in love?? To begin with, there is no formula for falling in love with someone. No emotion is strategical, which is why love just happens; unknowingly and unintentionally. I am assuming that since you are looking for how to fall in love again or in love (for the first time!), you are pretty much a commitment phobe. And if you aren't, my assumption then is that you are just here to read what I have to say!

How to Fall in Love With Someone

Mechanics of Love
All of us are loved. To be loved, means to be wanted, cared for and more importantly understood. These are somewhat the construed mechanics of love. As a child, as a sibling, as a girlfriend, as a boyfriend, as a wife, as a mother or even as a father, you have felt these technical aspects of love in all relationships and they still count even if they are in the smallest measurement. Love brings euphoria, elation, lightness, bliss and a sense of completeness. So, if  love is the answer for how to be happy in life, what's stopping you?

The Fear
We humans are ingrained with an incorrigible habit of believing in Murphy's law, anything that can go wrong will go wrong. Precisely, with this dorky attitude, we miss out evident objects of affection and try to figure out ways of how to fall in love with someone. This is a place where the fear of commitment stems from.

Combating Fear of Commitment
What is commitment? It's not being stuck in shackles of someone else's whims and fancies. A commitment, is a choice you make (a voluntary decision) to be with someone you love, because the person brings out the best in you. Simple?! If being with your husband, boyfriend or girlfriend, is going to bring out the best in you, then, technically, it DOES work in your favor. By the same virtue, you are free to make a commitment!! (I do recommend being selfish here)

Focal Point
Now that we shot dead your fear of commitment, let's focus on how to fall in love. Falling in love is about accepting the person for who they are. It is about a companionship which compliments togetherness. If you really want to be with a person (by the way 'want' is your cue), you need to focus on how this person in question, helps you to grow, intellectually and spiritually. If you can be what you are, when you are with this person, it's time you take the plunge.

The Plunge
Phew! It's time, to make it or leave it. The plunge is not some switch you've got to turn on. It the moment of truth you've got to accept about yourself, undauntedly. If you've followed the aforementioned steps, you are ready to be with the person in question. Confess your love without a shadow of a doubt or without a trace of a waver. Don't worry about being rejected or accepted. It's always about loving someone, the returns are always surplus. With this epoch making moment of your life, you would've successfully answered the Herculean question of how to fall in love.

Whether it's about how to fall in love with your husband or with anyone else, know, that if you could love yourself (all your life), you can fall in love. Love conquers all, as Viney says. Just surrender. Good luck!

ROMENTIC WAYS TO PROPOSE ("my own thoughts")

Romantic Ways to Propose:

If your girl is really the one to go in for all the mushy and romantic stuff, then a candlelit dinner is the simplest and most romantic ways to propose. You can add a personal touch to it by making a reservation in advance and getting the music group hired by the hotel, to play a list of her favorite tracks as well. The dim lights and the romantic tunes may just prove to be the right setting to pop the question. And hopefully it can definitely get you an affirmative reply! Besides if you think she would not mind the old fashioned way then you can actually go down on your knees and propose towards the end of the sumptuous meal.

The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach, they say. And it can work wonders the other way round as well. Men who cook (really well!) can be a huge turn on for most women and this can prove to be an apt romantic way to propose to your ladylove. Cook a scrumptious meal and place a love note next to the candle. Dim out all the lights, fluff up the cushions, spray some fragrance in the air and pull on your best outfit! If you have the culinary skills then bake a cake and write ‘Will you marry me’ with the help of some icing tubes.

If you are really cozy with the family and friends of your sweetheart, then you can plan a surprise party for her at the weekend. Include them in the planning and surprise him/her after a hard day at work. This might just touch the right chord considering you have gone really out of the way to include his/her family and friends as well.

Are you really looking for some sensual and romantic ways to propose? This one is bound to floor him/her. What you will need are some roses and a bubble bath. You will need to prepare a scented and hot bubble bath for your special someone. Do turn off the lights and use some candles. Scatter rose petals around and over the floor. Have some of these on his/her bed as well. Blindfold your partner and get him/her into the bedroom. Watch the surprise and joy unfold on the face once he/she sees this bedroom and bathroom makeover. Wait for the right moment and propose when your partner is least expecting these lines.

Does your partner love the outdoors? Plan for a nice twosome getaway at a romantic outing and pop the question at a scenic location, when he/she is least expecting. The setting would be perfect with the backdrop of nature and nothing could be more romantic then being away from the noisy city. Leave all your problems behind; you do not need any excess baggage!

It does not matter how much you spend but you can look for creative options, which the both of you can cherish forever. The bottom line is that these romantic ways of proposals should be memorable and positive enough to elicit a ‘Yes’ from him/her. Best of luck!

HOW TO STOP THE BREAK UP????

NOW the matter is How to stop the breakup??  

breaking the relation is very easy but to bound the relation is as tuff. there are some ways which we can utilise if breakup is coming to us:--

Communicate. Communication is important. If you find that when you try to communicate your feelings to your partner it always leads to an argument, try writing your feelings down. Read through what you’ve written. If you find things that are just petty problems with no real validity, eliminate them. Try to find the sources behind your words

Resist making accusations. Approach your partner calmly, without being defensive. Tell him/her the problem. Don’t be accusing or they will become defensive and yes, you will end up in an argument. If you find it’s easier to write it in a letter, then do so. Leave while they read it so you aren’t hovering over them, waiting for their reaction.

1. Refrain from insulting your partner during arguments. Fighting dirty can quickly become a habit and eventually someone will say something that the other person cannot forget, or worse, forgive.
2. Take time to tell your partner why you love him/her. Not once, but often. This can be something as small as a compliment on how they look. Your partner needs to know you appreciate them. Don’t just assume they know. Everyone likes to be reminded they are loved.
3. Be supportive and look for ways to give your partner the things they need the most. Even if they don’t tell you what they need, you can figure it out if you pay attention. Some people have a hard time telling you what they need but there are clues. If you’re not sure, ask.
4. Don’t neglect yourself. If your needs aren’t being met, find a way to let your partner know. If you are unhappy, you will eventually blame your partner. It’s much easier to let them know, in a positive way, the things you need.
5. Never try to solve a problem when you are angry. Take time to cool down. I know this can seem impossible at times but think about it. Is anything ever really solved when you are yelling at each other?
6. Set aside some time for just the two of you. If not once a week, then at least once a month. This should be quality, alone time, however you two choose to spend it. You might try arranging a specific day each week and take turns planning what you will do.
7. Discuss decisions that affect the both of you and try to find a solution that will keep you both happy. Never make an important decision that affects you both without talking to your partner.
8. Don’t Lie! Everyone lies occasionally. It’s in our nature. This isn’t an excuse to lie to your partner. Every time you are caught in a lie, a little more trust is taken away. A healthy relationship requires trust. Never ever lie about things important to the relationship. You’re better off facing the music if you’ve done something wrong then being caught in a lie.

BREAK UP??? why it happens???

BREAK UP:   Now the matter is about BREAKUP.. WATS breakup? when it occurred between couple? break up nothing just a big issue of small fight not fight actually love fight between couples. A relationship breakup, often referred to simply as a breakup, is the termination of a usually intimate relationship by any means other than bereavement. The act is commonly termed a dump in slang when it is initiated by one partner.

Rationale

Several psychological models have been proposed to explain the process of a relationship breakup. One theory, by L. Lee,^[1] proposes that there are five stages leading ultimately up to a breakup.

1. Dissatisfaction — one or both partners grow dissatisfied with the relationship.
2. Exposure — both partners mutually become aware of the problems in the relationship.
3. Negotiation — both partners attempt to negotiate a solution to problems.
4. Resolution and transformation — both partners apply the yield of their negotiation.
5. Termination — proposed resolution fails to rectify issues and no further solutions are accepted or applied.

The Emotions of Grief After A Breakup

Grief counselor and breakup  that the emotions of grief after a breakup are essentially the same as those as any grief process. Her research reflects that of Beverley Raphael who likened the process of grief as "phases" rather than "stages."Viney writes that the phases of breakup grief are "Shock and Disbelief", "Review and Painful Relinquishment", and "Reorganization, Integration, and Acceptance". Any of these three phases may be skipped, repeated, or rearranged, depending on one's situation and personality.

Reasons Why Breakup Happen and How to Fix it

There are many reasons why breakups happen. You need to make a choice to do something about it and try to fix it before it becomes permanent. Breakups are known as a situation where life can be permanently altered thus making them very hard to handle. 

The feelings of loneliness and pain can cripple anyone. The worse thing about it is that you probably feel if you seen it coming, you might have been able to avert it. You may start looking at the situations on the reasons that could have caused the breakup. Though you may find those problems, you may realize that it’s too late to stop the initial breakup. Even if this is the case, you can still fix them and try to win your partner back.

First reason why break up happen: Do not show or being too overly loving. For many men, anything resembles the word love after an intimate time together sends them running for the hills. While many women find it sweet, men find it a nightmare. It’s called “pressing the gas way too fast”

Here are some reasons why men run away from their suffocating women:

One type is the overly needy, clingy type that resembles the helpless but love-struck girl; the second type is the controlling, very demanding devil-incarnate who wants to command your every thought.

For guys, neither one is good to deal with and usually sends them ducking for cover. If you have either one of these attitudes, it is best to work on them and hold back these behaviors. Try not to be overly demanding or threatening and give the man some slack. While some men don’t mind a woman who is challenging, others dread it.

(2)  Second reason why break up happen:  Try to keep the relationship from getting boring. When a relationship first begins, the joy of being in love is there. However, over time, you both can take each other for granted and you and your other half just go through the motions of the relationship with a lack of feeling. It’s tragic when a relationship dies out because no one decided to keep it from going sour. Even if the newness wears off, you both should always love to be with one another.

If you notice the relationship in trouble from this sort of problem, you can fix it. First, try to remember what brought you both together. Second, find similar interests and do those together. Love is always there. You both just need to rediscover it.

(3)  Lastly, common reason why break up happen:  Cheating on the person you are with is the single biggest reason people breakup. There’s no reason for cheating. If you don’t love the person you are with, then just don’t be with them. If you do cheat, it makes you a dirt-bag for doing such a thing. It’s frightening to know that both men and women are having a difficult time being faithful to the one they supposedly love. Cheating breaks apart any relationship.

 

MY STORY

MY PERSONAL STORY

HI guys and gals,, i am viney, and i m going to tell you about my love story.. where is will there is a way... that's true.. i realized it in my own life. first of all i am telling you that i am a very simple boy and always want a simple partner who loves me cares me... and finally i got her in my life.. do u know how i got her....yes my friend lives in front of my home ,, one day i went to a marriage with my parents there i met a gal who was hesitating to talk . then i tried to talk her, she was full of shame as indian religious gal. . then she accepted me as her friend, then i asked the matter  , she told me That she feels very alone because there is no body to understand her.. i promised her to keep her secure, . then i started talking to her. i and  she begun to talk to me, we became good friends. she lives very far from me still i always thought for her,she thinks for me.then slowly slowly i feel some special in my heart but i feared how i tell her,,, luck by chance she too felt same as i . then with a great heart i told her then she remains quite then said she likes me.. really THERE WAS TEARS IN MY EYES AND MY HEART BEATING VERY FASTLY.then slowly slowly this relation became more effective and strong,, my life style totally changed with her. i became very happy,, and she too happy in my happiness. now with god's blessing we have passed a lot of time with each other,, there are many drawbacks in me like loose tempered,doubter,etc but still she loves me that's only a true love and still i did not give a single touch to her because we love each others by heart not with physically, that's my little love story if waheguru wants then we shall-be married soon...